Thursday, January 3

Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow

Well, this holiday season is one we're not likely to forget.

This year we decided to stretch the holidays a bit and for the last few days before Christmas, we let the kids open one gift every day. December 23 was one such day. Kardynn picked out a gift from Annika.



She was delighted to unwrap a Hello Kitty makeup/toiletry kit. The girls immediately started to play with it but then they moved on to other things.  They were using post-its and making "beards" and taking turns pretending to be Santa.  We watched several performances of Santa interacting with little girls.  (In this case the "little girl" is bigger than Santa.)


They had also opened a marble run present so everyone took a turn making a structure.




Eventually we encouraged the kids to take showers.  But after a while, Dwight and I realized that it had been quiet for too long.  I went off to investigate and found two little girls locked in the kids' bathroom - never a good sign.

They had taken the three bottles of Hello Kitty nail polish and decided to "highlight" Kardynn's hair.  I only took one photo before Dwight suggested that I was giving the wrong message by taking photos.  So I have no pictures of the ensuing buzz cuts...which probably would have been tricky anyway since I became somewhat emotional watching their beautiful tresses falling to the floor.  But I'm getting ahead of myself, what you can't see here are the additional "highlights" on the sides, not to mention the additional mess of nail polish that was unveiled when we removed the bun.  It was definitely impressive.  That one blue streak, for example, went the entire length of her hair.


I spent quite a bit of time reading online about how to get nail polish out of hair and most of the suggestions were for nail polish remover (which I did NOT want to put on my baby's sensitive scalp).  Dwight tried to get it off with water but that didn't do much on the thick glob of nail polish.  We thought about just leaving it, and letting her have multi-colored hair, but that didn't seem like a good idea either.  So eventually we decided to go with the second most popular suggestion on the Internet - cut off the hair.  We had warned Annika that if Kardynn's hair ended up having to be cut off, we would cut off her hair as well.  Initially she was enthusiastic about the idea but when she saw my reaction, as it was happening, she started to get second thoughts.  I'll admit, it didn't really seem like *that* big of a deal until I saw the hair falling to the floor and then it seemed like the worst idea we'd ever had. 

But, hey, it's just hair.  It will grow back.  And on the bright side, I don't think we have to worry about these two putting nail polish in their hair ever again.  Let me tell you that seeing those two girls with their bald heads makes me incredibly grateful for two healthy - albeit mischievous - little girls.

Sunday, December 23

Our Year in Review

As I sit here reflecting on the past year, my thoughts are dominated by the passing of mother-in-law, Joy.  It seems somehow fitting that she passed away at the start of the season of joy.  Every time I see the word “joy”, I think of her.  But it’s sad too.  We have a Christmas gift sitting under our tree, that was there before she passed.  I can’t bring myself to remove it. 

There will be a memorial service for her at the Frederick Seventh-day Adventist Church in the chapel, on Saturday, January 19, 2013 at 4:30 pm.

For those of you who didn't know Dwight's mom, she was a sweet and gentle person. She was a devoted mother. She was also an amazing mother-in-law. Dwight was always her perfect little boy but she welcomed me into his life and very quickly made me feel like one of her own. When we started having our own children, she was supportive and encouraging. She never had anything but kind words for me. She never suggested that I do things a different way. In fact she would quietly tell me that I was doing a great job. I feel so grateful to have had her approval and most importantly, her love. But with that very recent loss, it’s hard to write my usual lighthearted letter - as she herself would have said, “Uffda!”

Sadly, we had several losses this year. Dwight’s grandmother, “NeeNee”, passed away at the start of the year. We gathered with the Wold family for a graveside service, in January. In August I flew to Florida for a memorial service for my Aunt Charmaine (my mom’s sister) with my Van Belle family.

Fortunately there were many happy times as well. We went on several trips – I love trying new things and going new places so I’m hoping to foster that same passion in my family – particularly my husband.
  • At the end of February we took our kids out west for a ski trip. We joined up with my father-in-law’s family for the week and my brother Jonny and his girlfriend, Julia, spent the weekend with us as well. Taking the kids to Colorado was very special for us.  Ever since our family started to grow, Dwight and I dreamed of being able to ski with our kids. It’s not something we’ll be doing every year (Yike$!) but it did live up to our expectations. The kids loved it and their skills improved rapidly. Oskar even managed to go down a black diamond before we left.
  • At the start of the summer, my Grandma Prouty flew down and spent a little time with us – which was a wonderful treat. The Prouty family is huge (there are twenty-seven of us in my generation and all I can tell you about her great grandchildren is that she passed the twenty–seven mark a while ago). As I was saying, the Prouty family is huge so I’m incredibly honored that we managed to get some of her time.
  • Dwight and I spent the first weekend in June, exploring Raleigh, NC.
  • A few weeks later, the kids and I drove to Tennessee where we spent time with the Prouty family and then we had a quick visit with Bruce and Rita, in North Carolina.
  • We celebrated Dwight’s 40th birthday with a big surprise party. It required way too much subterfuge so I’m officially retiring from throwing surprise parties.  But it was a ton of fun and he loved it so I’m glad I did it this once.
  • The following month, we also had a fun couple of days at Ocean City with just our little…ahem…large family of six (and a day trip to meet up with Dad’s family in Delaware, which was awesome).
  • After nearly fifteen years at his previous position, Dwight started a new job, with Oracle. (On a side note, he started his new position one week before the kids started school. This is the first year the kids are all in school during the morning, five days a week. So naturally that’s when Dwight starts working from home. He is getting entirely the wrong impression of how my life has been, these past nine years! Not to mention, I’m not sure why the Universe apparently has a problem with me having time home alone. *hehe* But it’s actually been wonderful having him home. And I think he would agree.)
  • We celebrated ten years of marriage with an overnight getaway to Alexandria. I'd never really been before, which is crazy since we live so close.  Dwight and I had fun wandering around and going for a nice, long jog together.
  • We enjoyed an extended Labor Day weekend with the extended Engen family, at the Outer Banks (in the 4wd only section, which was an interesting experience).
  • In October, the Wolcott family gathered here in DC where we participated in the ALS Walk, in support of Dwight’s aunt, Carolyn.
And through all this flutter activity, the kids continue to grow up at a startling rate. This morning I realized that Kardynn is now older than Oskar was, when she was born. 

Oskar is in 3rd
grade.  He’s become obsessed with math – particularly pi. I’m so fascinated by this little boy whose brain operates NOTHING like mine. Right now is favorite book is one about math, called Go Figure!, that he checked out from the school library. He pores over it for hours at a time.  And then he’ll come quiz me on the formula for the area of various shapes.  It’s a little odd…and very amusing at the same time.  I just hope he somehow retains some of this enthusiasm until when he starts actually learning about this stuff in school.  He’s also become interested in programming.  Clearly he has 100% Dwight Engen DNA.
And then we have Annika, whose brain operates EXACTLY like mine (which has been very humbling – apparently I must have a rather challenging personality). She’s completely my little clone. But on the up side, she is a very happy child. She does everything with exuberance and enthusiasm. She has energy in spades. She loves to run. She’s a complete tomboy and even cut off her hair into an adorable little pixie cut this summer. She’s a wonderful organizer and list maker. She’s also going to be a fantastic babysitter.  She's in second grade.
Kiersten is a sweetheart. She has my mother-in-law’s personality.  This year she went into first grade. I was worried about how she’d transition to being there for a full-day but she’s thriving.  Having said that, this Fall has been a struggle for her because she somehow ended up with a nasty autoimmune disorder called Henoch-Schonlein purpura (HSP).  We’ve now been dealing with this for almost five weeks.  I hate to see my little girl in pain and it’s frustrating because there’s not a whole lot we can do for her.  But we’re keeping our fingers crossed that the worst of it is behind us. 

Kardynn is keeping things balanced and takes after her oldest sister.  Those two are either thick as thieves or fighting – there’s no in between with them.  Kardynn is enjoying one last year of preschool and loves being at the same school as her little cousin, Autumn.  Every day she gives me an update on her cousin. She always tells me what Autumn was wearing and how her hair looks.  (Based on those daily updates, I can tell you that my niece is one stylin’ little girl!) Kardynn is growing up especially fast. I think she loves her afternoons with me and Dwight, while the other guys are still in school. She’s a perpetual source of amusement and says the absolute cutest things (I’m not the least bit biased). She makes us laugh all the time and I’m a little sad that my baby is no longer a baby.
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This letter took me a long time to write. The slideshow has been ready to go for days but I just couldn’t get the words together. It probably doesn’t help that we’ve had a lot going on, this last little bit. Five out of the last six schooldays, I was at the elementary school or preschool for various events. We’ve also been spending extra time with family and friends these last couple of days. Our lives are very full, which is a wonderful thing but time-consuming, all the same.  Next year brings lots to look forward to.  Ted's first baby - a little boy - is due to arrive in May. We're already making plans for trips we might like to take (including a trip out to Arizona for this auntie, to meet said little boy). We hope the coming year brings more of the good stuff and less of the bad.  We wish the same for you!

If you’d like to refresh yourself on how we all look, check out our virtual holiday greeting (a mere 2 and a half minute commitment).


Happy Holidays 2012! from Heather Engen on Vimeo.

(If you have any problems with the video, trying going to Vimeo and viewing it full screen).

Much love,

Heather, Oskar, Kiersten, Kardynn, Annika, Dwight
Heather, Oskar, Kiersten, Kardynn, Annika, Dwight


P.S. I’ve been a little nervous about writing this letter ever since my friend Sharon posted a link on Facebook to the Humble Brag letter 2012, a few weeks ago.  I assume people would prefer to read about the good stuff in our lives but I definitely don’t want anyone punching me in the throat! *wink*)

Thursday, December 20

Dinner Conversation

Overheard last night at the supper table.

Annika and Kiersten were discussing a boy in Kiersten's class, who has apparently told both of them that they're pretty.

Annika, "He said that I'm hotter than Kiersten."
Kiersten, to Oskar, "What does that mean? That she's like, cooler than I am or that she's sweatier than me?"

Friday, December 14

DNA

Kids are great for keeping things light. Last weekend, when Dwight, Joy and I were talking to the kids and explaining that Grammy had passed away, at one point it was pointed out to them that Grammy lives on inside of each of them because she's a part of them - we pointed out some specific similarities - and that they all have her genes.

So yesterday I was talking to a friend and mentioned my mother-in-law's passing, in our conversation. Kardynn plugged her ears which I thought was coincidence but once we were back in the car, we had this conversation. "Mommy, do you know why I plugged my ears? I don't like to hear you say that Grammy died. It makes me very sad." Her little lip was quivering and tears were welling up in her eyes. I told her that it makes me very sad too. She attempted to comfort me and said, "It's okay Mommy. Her body parts are in all of us. But mommy, are her pants in us too?"

Tuesday, December 11

Santa

Fortunately I'm not too attached to whether or not my kids believe in Santa because this weekend - after waxing eloquent about how nice it is to save the "magic of Christmas for the little ones" - a certain someone put presents under my tree labeled from Santa. #GrandparentingFail

Thursday, November 15

Canning Soup

A few years ago my younger brother taught me how to can soup. He had learned the recipe from someone else and had made it so many times that he no longer needed to follow the recipe.  He just knew what to do.  That made it a little tricky for me to recreate it later on my own.  But I googled and found something similar and now I've done it so many times that I too can make *my* version without looking at a recipe.  Plus it's never exactly the same, even if I try.  Inevitably I forget something, or I decide to try something new, so every time it's a little different.

Two of my friends had expressed an interest in learning how to can soup so I invited them over for a canning session.  Unfortunately life happens - stuff came up -and we had to postpone our canning date.  But this morning, when it turned out that my little one was a little bit sick and would be staying home from preschool (life happens, remember?), I decided to take advantage and can some soup...even if I was doing it solo.  I documented it thoroughly so that I could share it with my friends.  Although I do hope that we'll still get together in the next couple of days for a canning session.  I mean, pictures are great and all but they can't compare with doing something in person with someone. But hopefully the photos will be a handy reference AFTER that!

I love this tomato based vegetable soup. In fact, I've shared the recipe before.  I'm not actually going to repeat the recipe now. This post was really just intended as a demonstration of how to can the soup. And even though I'm sure no one needs the photos of the soup-making part, I just went ahead and documented the whole deal.

Let's make some soup!

My brother puts a little vegetable oil and a little olive oil.  Sometimes I do that or I do one or the other.  Today I just used a little olive oil.  I threw the onions in first.



I didn't actually saute the onions, per se.  I just threw them in there and let them start to heat up while I cut up the cabbage.

I like to cut the cabbage in nice big chunks.  Those white parts from the stalk are my favorite part of the soup.  Yum!

I added all of the following to my soup.  I'm a vegetarian so I add some "fake meat". Sometimes I use Morningstar crumbles but I prefer the Boca crumbles. I think maybe they're a little bigger than the Morningstar crumbles, which I apparently like.  I also like to add some chunks of a soy product called "Vegetable Steaks".  I'm sure it's not the healthiest - with all kinds of preservatives and sodium - but they're yummy so I try to not think about it too much.  I like to throw in some dark AND light kidney beans.  I also typically add diced tomatoes and tomato paste.  Unfortunately I couldn't find tomato paste in my pantry so I grabbed a can of tomato sauce instead.  I happened to have vegetable broth so I put in two boxes of that as well, though usually I just add water.  I also added what was left of my Marmite, to add some flavor.

canned and frozen products to add to soup

Typically I add the cabbage right away but today I added other stuff first.  I don't think it really matters what order you choose to add things. 

Let me put in a quick plug for my Pampered Chef garlic slicer.  I love having slices of garlic in my soup, as opposed to just mincing the garlic.  I use more garlic than my recipe called for, because the garlic isn't as strong this way, but it's oh so yummy! 


I added some green pepper.


 I added some celery.


At this point I tasted the broth and found it lacking so I added a cube of vegetable bouillon, to give it a little more flavor.


When my grandmother was alive, she loved to make soup and she always added bay leaves.  So now I always add bay leaves.  I'm not even sure what flavor they contribute and you wouldn't want to actually eat any of the bay leaves you encounter, but they make me think of my Grandma so they go into every soup I make.  And I have no doubt it wouldn't taste right without them.


I typically don't add a lot of seasoning - I think the veggies are tasty enough all on their own but I was being fancy for the camera so I threw in a bunch of stuff - parsley, basil, Italian seasoning...I'm not even sure.  I just sniffed spices and if it smelled like it would be good with my soup, I added it. 

I also added enough water to come up to the top of all the stuff in the pot.

After mixing all of that in, I took another taste of my broth.  I was feeling sad that it wasn't quite thick enough for my liking, so I looked around in my pantry and TADA I found the box of tomato paste.  I knew I had tomato paste.  So I added a can of that. (I always add some water to it first because I think it's easier to mix in that way.)


I put the lid on to help it get boiling.  At which point I realized that I never actually did add the bay leaves - just took a picture and then put them back away.  Oops!  I also remembered that I had some grape tomatoes I had wanted to use up...so I added both those things.




At this point it had already been sitting on the stove for a while but I set the timer for 45 minutes.  I just wanted to make sure that it didn't sit there too long without my realizing it. 


While my soup was simmering, I filled up an 8 qt pot of water.  You have to figure out how much water to add to the pot of water so that when it's full of jars, the water will come up to about an inch below the top of the pot.  Typically I just hold down 4 jars while I fill up the pot with water.  But since I was being all fancy and taking pictures, I actually filled them with water too to keep them down in place.  Once you have the right amount of water, remove the empty (or water-filled) jars and get that pot of water boiling.


One the soup starts boiling, I turn the heat down to about medium...maybe medium high.  I always crack the lid because otherwise it gets super messy as the lid bobs around and tomato soup sprays everywhere.


In a third pot of water, you will boil the lids.  You do this to a) sterilize them and b) soften the wax to seal the lids onto the jars.  I think you're supposed to boil the lids for at least 10 minutes (when using this method of canning).


These are the supplies I use.  At some point I purchased a canning kit from Amazon and I think it's totally worth the $12.  A couple of them items are pictured below.

(Sept 13, 2013 note: Not all of the items pictured are from the kit but not all of the items in the kit are pictured...just in case that wasn't obvioius.)


As the soup simmers, I watch for the cabbage to soften.  In this case, I started canning after about half an hour.  And really I should have started before that but I had forgotten to start my other pot of water boiling so I had to wait on that for a couple of minutes.  You want to get started while it's still a little undercooked because the soup will heat some more when you place the jar full of soup into the pot of boiling water and of course when you reheat it at some later point. 

There's my big pot of soup (I think that's a 12 qt pot), the small pot of boiling water for the lids and the 8 qt pot of boiling water for the cans, after I fill them up with soup.


My first jar is filled with soup and ready to move to the pot of boiling water.


I use this handy dandy tool to move the jar.  My brother drilled into me what a bad scene it would be if one of those jars fell while doing this so I'm always super careful about moving them.  The thought of hot soup and broken glass about my feet is enough to keep me hyper focused every time. 

I actually bought some new jars for this canning adventure.  In the past I've always used regular size jars but I had always regretted not having purchased wide mouth jars.  I was certain that they would be easier to work with.  Well, guess what?!  Almost immediately I realized that I'm not actually crazy about the wide mouth jars. The wide-mouth jars probably *would* have been helpful my first couple times canning but then I bought that kit from Amazon, which came with that great funnel.  With the funnel, the wide mouth jars were equally easy as the regular jars to fill.  Unfortunately that wide rim made them a pain to move.

(Nov 19, 2012 note: one of my kind, discrete relatives quietly pointed out to me that I was using this tool upside down.  *ha*  Which totally makes sense and I think it will work much better in the future.  So you can disregard all subsequent grumbling about how my tool didn't work with the wide mouth jars.)

If you're not using a funnel, make sure you don't have any food up around the rim of the jar, that could potentially cause a problem for the seal.


Here are four of my jars in the boiling water.  You can see here why it's important to get the water measured correctly ahead of time so that it's not spilling out of the pot when you add the jars of soup.


I can't remember when my brother told me to add the lids but I typically do it when the jars are still in the boiling water.  I have this fancy shmancy magnetic tool to move the lids from the pot of boiling water to the jars.  Once again, the wide mouth jars messed me up because these lids were bigger and therefore heavier so they didn't work too great with my little magnetic tool.



I used my same grabber tool to remove the jars from the pot.  (I do not have a clue what it's actually called, but I'm guessing not a grabber tool.)  I was again regretting the wide mouth jars because it was hard to get my tool in there without sliding the lids around on the other jars.  But it still worked.  I get a rotation going.  I take a jar out and then move a new full jar into it's place, before taking the next jar out.  That keeps the water up nice and high on the jars to keep everything sterile.

When I so remove the jars, I use this tool to hold them while I tighten the rings onto the jars. This helps get a good seal.


Since the wide mouth jars were giving me trouble, I eventually stopped even trying to use my little magnet tool and I just used tongs instead.  (These tongs also came with the canning kit I purchased from Amazon.)  The tongs worked fine.


Here are the finished jars of soup.  As they're cooling, you'll hear the lids pop when they seal.  Once that happens, the lids won't have much give to them - if at all.  These jars all had great seals so they didn't budge at all, when I pushed on them. 


After the jars were cool, I wrote the date on the lids. Now they just need to get put away on a shelf for a rainy day...or tomorrow.


One quick note about this particular soup.  It seems to be quite forgiving but the one thing that I learned is to  not add pasta.  My husband and kids love it when I add noodles but if you're going to do that, add the pasta when you re-heat it.  The time I tried canning it with pasta, I think the pasta pickled so it did not taste right and I ended up dumping a couple of the jars.  I don't think they had actually gone bad but they didn't taste right to me and I wasn't about to take chances.  Not to mention, the pasta soaked up all the liquid.  This pasta thing is probably some known fact and experienced canners are probably chuckling at my mistake but I learned through trial and error.  So yeah, take it from me, don't add pasta to this soup before you can it.

If you do give this a try, tell me how it goes.  I hope you enjoy your canned soup! My kids love to add gold fish crackers so now we call it "Goldfish Soup"...because we're creative like that.

Post Script: If you read the comments below, you'll see that my brother called me out on my broth and called this one a "crime".  (*hehe*  He's passionate about his soup!)  He doesn't approve of my adding the seasonings.  And honestly, I have to agree with him.  This tasted fine but I do prefer the garlicky-tomatoey goodness of my usual simple broth. He actually adds a de-veined jalapeno pepper as well.

Sunday, September 30

Messages from The Universe

Although I do my best to live in the moment, I have to confess that for about 7 years now, I've been secretly looking forward to the day when all the kids would be in school and I would have a few hours to myself on weekdays.  Perhaps it's not been a very secret desire, come to think of it.  I'm pretty sure every one of my friends knows how much I've been looking forward to this. In fact, every so often over the years I would entertain the idea of homeschooling the kids but then I would remember how much I was looking forward to those few hours of time to myself and that would instantly zap any such thoughts.

Last year was the magical year when Kardynn's time in preschool would overlap with Kiersten's time in Kindergarten. But The Universe has a sense of humor because, I suddenly found myself caring for a little one once again.  I'm actually very grateful for the time I got to spend watching my niece last year, but it was a funny turn of events all the same.  (On a side note, it made me realize how far we've come. Wow! Watching an infant is time intensive.  There's no easy slipping away to do things like...post on your blog.)  I still did get time to myself a couple of days every week but I just had one day of negative productivity thrown into the mix.

Time moved along and my niece switched to full-time daycare.  But by then summer had arrived and the house was once again a constant center of activity with everyone home from school.  But The Universe wasn't finished having a little fun at my expense. One week before school was to start up again, my husband started a new job...working from home.  "Seriously, Universe?!  Are you kidding me?" 

But that's okay because his being home didn't really interfere with what I wanted to do, which was to exercise. All summer I'd been looking forward to being able to exercise five mornings a week.

Two weeks after Kardynn started preschool I finally caved in and went to see a doctor about the pain in my heel.  At that point I'd been in constant pain for about 5 weeks.  And what happened with the doctor is hopefully The Universe's last little joke at my expense. I've been temporarily banned from all exercise while my foot heals from plantar fasciitis.  I supposed to run a half marathon on November 9 but I've finally accepted that it's not happening.

So this is a reminder that I'm not in control and that I have to go with the flow and roll with the punches as best I can...and that The Universe has a wicked sense of humor.